I came across a post that asks the same question that I – a feminist – asked for a while. Why aren’t marriages lasting like our grandparents generation – what changed? A very smart person from America replied: This is answered weekly and no one is listening. You might also ask, “Why didn’t women have […]
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Day 157: #Guns and Women
While mentoring one of my students at Masterstudio (HGK, Basel) for her Master Thesis titled: “What attitude do Swiss and American students have towards guns? A study to visualise thoughts and attitudes regarding on-going debates about gun-control.” – I remember passing a snide comment about how guns have more rights than a woman in America. […]
Day 117: Sisyphean task
I have been travelling and living alone, away from my parents since I came of age. There were many Bengali men and women before I, they did the same, one of them being Gayatri Chakraborty-Spivak. I prefer thinking of us as the free spirited lot – in a never ending quest for knowledge and education. […]
Day 34: Kintsugi, broken but beautiful – The Breakup
There’s one thing I realised lately, that my worthiness does not depend on validation from anyone but myself. Particularly those who take pleasure in seeing me in harm. I am worthy, loving, and an amazing person to those who know me. Of course I’ve been broken into pieces and there are pieces of me scattered […]
Day 18: Resistance – The Breakup
When I look back at these 18 days, I have noticed a pattern amidst support and resistance. Supporters have been downright kind and are empathetic to the situation I have been through, or silent readers who wrote to me in person with love and encouragement. While resistance came from those who show some/same amount of […]
Day 8 (Part 2): Telling Papa – The BreakUp
Let’s just make one thing clear, my dad doesn’t talk much but sometimes he surprises me. So telling my dad about this breakup went like this. Dad *laughing loudly*: The one who kept calling you for 3 whole months? All the time? Even when we were at family gatherings or driving outside? The grey haired […]
MY love keeps YOU (safely) preoccupied
MY love keeps YOU (safely) preoccupied is an attempt to explore some of the gendered aspects of distinction and domination in families from the classes with little to no cultural capital (Bourdieuan mainly), and if the idea of ‘love’ and its ritualistic emphasis on performance coax the agenda of domination of the weaker gender through the discourse of ‘love’…? And if this can be understood by looking at Marxist conflict theory… Then what is love? (Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more!)
ANTHROPOLOGY OF LOVE 