Mommy Diaries: Divorce, Possibilities, and Lessons

I came across a post that asks the same question that I – a feminist – asked for a while. Why aren’t marriages lasting like our grandparents generation – what changed? A very smart person from America replied: This is answered weekly and no one is listening. You might also ask, “Why didn’t women have […]

#Kashmiri Apples

Hard rural boys, dark skinned in their six hundred rupees pants – bought on the roadside, wanted to get them beautiful Kashmiri girls when BJP moved forces into the state; “white babes, with cheeks like apples – darlings me marry yous, wanna be my friendship?” So I told them, perhaps women from their family would […]

Day 146: #MaternalWall or Maternity Bias

Bias against mothers stems not only from assumptions about what mothers are like, but also from assumptions about how mothers should behave… leading to people deciding as “well wishers” if mothers are capable of handling a child and a responsibility. This is particularly problematic as many would indulge into this sort of gender bias without […]

I see my dog turning old, lose skin under her neck, I see her sleeping more and more, nodding off as she pretends to stay awake. I sit there talking to someone, a person who promises the world to me. I take my book and open a page – last poems I published about an […]

Day 61: Hilsa, Apfelstrudel, Fondue – The Single Woman’s Diary

I am always told intercultural relationships are hard. And I keep saying – it’s a matter of attitude. In sociology we see the term cultural similarities pop up all the time. Social anthropology students are usually aware about cultural comparisons, to note down common characteristics in-order-to analyse that what is seen as similarity and/or differences […]

Day 41: The Shit-Show – Single Woman’s Diary

It was really lovely what V said last night: “get them to do a blood test on your 3rd date”! After I told her about how “helicobacter pylori” spreads! And Daniel: “wow you got lucky. You dodged a bullet!” Tinder dates. What can I say? What can I say. You think as a woman abiding […]

Day 31: Hookup Culture – The Single Woman’s Diary

Today’s Tinder-generation (and that’s a broad age spectrum, not just 20 year olds – includes those going to be 40 and 50 soon) are all swimming in a “hookup culture”. Plenty of fish in the sea, so no need to settle. It lacks depth and promotes “temporary”. Sufficing ones need when and where possible. I […]

Day 12: He’s Just Not That Into You – The Single Woman’s Diary

I keep on talking about the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” (by the way, the book is way better). But I never shared any of my reasons why I find it absolutely formidable and a must watch for women. And if not watch, definitely read. This book is truly God-sent, and somehow makes […]

Day 11: The Single Woman’s Diary

Daniel (with a deep Scottish accent and a manly voice mimicking toxic masculinity): your father shall approve of my built, I have many cows. And a sheep. Now hold my beer. That’s what happens when you have a bestmate who’s an outsider of student associations, but loves his beer and whiskey as much as I/we […]

Day 34: Kintsugi, broken but beautiful – The Breakup

There’s one thing I realised lately, that my worthiness does not depend on validation from anyone but myself. Particularly those who take pleasure in seeing me in harm. I am worthy, loving, and an amazing person to those who know me. Of course I’ve been broken into pieces and there are pieces of me scattered […]