I came across a post that asks the same question that I – a feminist – asked for a while. Why aren’t marriages lasting like our grandparents generation – what changed? A very smart person from America replied: This is answered weekly and no one is listening. You might also ask, “Why didn’t women have […]
Tag: power play
War
Unpopular opinion perhaps but true to what I argue, problematic is not racism but colourism like “Et tu, …”! As women in Iran fight for rights, Aryan remains a misconception – greed splits human-race and hatred bonds us through fear. Beware, white-blacks-browns-reds-yellow, you’re all mocking and damning eachother – but hypocrites! Worse you do to […]
#Kashmiri Apples
Hard rural boys, dark skinned in their six hundred rupees pants – bought on the roadside, wanted to get them beautiful Kashmiri girls when BJP moved forces into the state; “white babes, with cheeks like apples – darlings me marry yous, wanna be my friendship?” So I told them, perhaps women from their family would […]
#comer a tu
I let them talk (shit) about me. For it tells more about them, than about me.
#Idiom
Keep hearing mention of an idiom: throw someone under the bus. It means to criticise, blame or punish someone in a vulnerable position; just so to avoid blame or to gain an advantage. Funny how it turns out that those who repeatedly use this term as a caution-tale… tactic, paranoia, – are often doing so […]
Mommy Diaries: Bialetti. Breastfeed.
I am half mind about changing from Nespresso to Bialetti again. Nespresso doesn’t satisfy me anymore. It’s good coffee but not for someone who enjoys the ritual of making coffee. And I need my caffeine after ten months of extremely clean diet! Past month, since my child’s birth, has been a rollercoaster ride of new […]
Day 157: #Guns and Women
While mentoring one of my students at Masterstudio (HGK, Basel) for her Master Thesis titled: “What attitude do Swiss and American students have towards guns? A study to visualise thoughts and attitudes regarding on-going debates about gun-control.” – I remember passing a snide comment about how guns have more rights than a woman in America. […]
Day 149: Know your enemy – #DogWhistling #Narcissists
“Dog whistling is a gaslighting abuse technique where an abuser can cause suffering to another without others being aware of what is occurring. When the abused tries to speak up against it – it is dismissed by others as they are not being hurt by the action.” One of the major dog-whistle tactics that some […]
Day 117: Sisyphean task
I have been travelling and living alone, away from my parents since I came of age. There were many Bengali men and women before I, they did the same, one of them being Gayatri Chakraborty-Spivak. I prefer thinking of us as the free spirited lot – in a never ending quest for knowledge and education. […]
Box full of bags: The Love Diary
“I forgive those who hurt me in the past and peacefully detach from them.” That has been one of my major affirmations for a while now. It allowed me to remain objective while facing random acts of symbolic violence from those I believed to be trust worthy. It’s an affirmation that helps one move past […]
ANTHROPOLOGY OF LOVE 