I let them talk (shit) about me. For it tells more about them, than about me.
Keep hearing mention of an idiom: throw someone under the bus. It means to criticise, blame or punish someone in a vulnerable position; just so to avoid blame or to gain an advantage. Funny how it turns out that those who repeatedly use this term as a caution-tale… tactic, paranoia, – are often doing so […]
Day 149: Know your enemy – #DogWhistling #Narcissists
“Dog whistling is a gaslighting abuse technique where an abuser can cause suffering to another without others being aware of what is occurring. When the abused tries to speak up against it – it is dismissed by others as they are not being hurt by the action.” One of the major dog-whistle tactics that some […]
Day 138: #MothersDay
Exactly on this day a year ago my ex-J literally sat on his high-chair imposing his choice of not to pursue fatherhood – by telling me that it is either his way or highway if I want to be a mother. Yes. When we came together we had this conversation and I made it clear […]
Box full of bags: The Love Diary
“I forgive those who hurt me in the past and peacefully detach from them.” That has been one of my major affirmations for a while now. It allowed me to remain objective while facing random acts of symbolic violence from those I believed to be trust worthy. It’s an affirmation that helps one move past […]
Mockingbird: The Love Diary
“First of all,” he said, “if you can learn a simple trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view […] until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” (To Kill A Mocking […]
Every misunderstanding caused as you struggle reading my texts, as you assume different from what I convey, shows me how little you truly know me. Scarcely understand me.
Day 41: The Shit-Show – Single Woman’s Diary
It was really lovely what V said last night: “get them to do a blood test on your 3rd date”! After I told her about how “helicobacter pylori” spreads! And Daniel: “wow you got lucky. You dodged a bullet!” Tinder dates. What can I say? What can I say. You think as a woman abiding […]
The one I’d think of night and day, that face I can’t recall. What was that persons name? I tried to recollect, but it has permanently left my mind. Gone.
Day 30: The Breakup
To be honest… The “21 day rule” holds true. I did not put pressure on myself to “feel better” – I gave myself time and permission to grieve. Of course I learnt too late that my ex relationship was one sided, and therefore the pain was perhaps greater with the realisation. Particularly cause he integrated […]