Unpopular opinion perhaps but true to what I argue, problematic is not racism but colourism like “Et tu, …”! As women in Iran fight for rights, Aryan remains a misconception – greed splits human-race and hatred bonds us through fear. Beware, white-blacks-browns-reds-yellow, you’re all mocking and damning eachother – but hypocrites! Worse you do to […]
Mommy Diaries: Baby Blues
It’s been a while that I wrote on my blog. Life has been busy and I’m on a deadline to finish a short novel. (You can find the rest of my books here: http://www.debdubois.ch/) Did you hear that “a man whose job it is to help preserve Japan’s cultural heritage has accidentally smashed his car […]
Self-hate has left tally marks on her skin. One, two, three, four and a strike through! Five. In clusters. Here and there. We tally our beer, she tallied her pain. Till one day she stopped. She reached the highest level of self-loathing: So much so it flipped. A soul that reached serenity by fighting against […]
Doubt: a survival technique. Our mind uses naturally to make sure that our heart makes these right decisions. Doubt is what helps us to protect from getting hurt again. Yet magic happens in a doubtless environment.
We all have demons, they are our live entities. To work with your demons rather than shunning them – you are owning up to all your flaws and personality, a gratitude towards yourself.
Mommy Diaries: Bialetti. Breastfeed.
I am half mind about changing from Nespresso to Bialetti again. Nespresso doesn’t satisfy me anymore. It’s good coffee but not for someone who enjoys the ritual of making coffee. And I need my caffeine after ten months of extremely clean diet! Past month, since my child’s birth, has been a rollercoaster ride of new […]
Day 149: Know your enemy – #DogWhistling #Narcissists
“Dog whistling is a gaslighting abuse technique where an abuser can cause suffering to another without others being aware of what is occurring. When the abused tries to speak up against it – it is dismissed by others as they are not being hurt by the action.” One of the major dog-whistle tactics that some […]
Day 146: #MaternalWall or Maternity Bias
Bias against mothers stems not only from assumptions about what mothers are like, but also from assumptions about how mothers should behave… leading to people deciding as “well wishers” if mothers are capable of handling a child and a responsibility. This is particularly problematic as many would indulge into this sort of gender bias without […]
Day 138: #MothersDay
Exactly on this day a year ago my ex-J literally sat on his high-chair imposing his choice of not to pursue fatherhood – by telling me that it is either his way or highway if I want to be a mother. Yes. When we came together we had this conversation and I made it clear […]
Day 15: Pregnancy and ADHD
First of, I never took ADHD meds. I have lived with mine for so long that I have a system to my chaos. I can still achieve my goals, with meticulous planning and execution – but no meds – I have reached a satisfactory mediocre level of daily performance which could be outstanding if I […]