Keep hearing mention of an idiom: throw someone under the bus. It means to criticise, blame or punish someone in a vulnerable position; just so to avoid blame or to gain an advantage. Funny how it turns out that those who repeatedly use this term as a caution-tale… tactic, paranoia, – are often doing so […]
Tag: manipulation
Mommy Diaries: Bialetti. Breastfeed.
I am half mind about changing from Nespresso to Bialetti again. Nespresso doesn’t satisfy me anymore. It’s good coffee but not for someone who enjoys the ritual of making coffee. And I need my caffeine after ten months of extremely clean diet! Past month, since my child’s birth, has been a rollercoaster ride of new […]
Day 149: Know your enemy – #DogWhistling #Narcissists
“Dog whistling is a gaslighting abuse technique where an abuser can cause suffering to another without others being aware of what is occurring. When the abused tries to speak up against it – it is dismissed by others as they are not being hurt by the action.” One of the major dog-whistle tactics that some […]
Day 138: #MothersDay
Exactly on this day a year ago my ex-J literally sat on his high-chair imposing his choice of not to pursue fatherhood – by telling me that it is either his way or highway if I want to be a mother. Yes. When we came together we had this conversation and I made it clear […]
Box full of bags: The Love Diary
“I forgive those who hurt me in the past and peacefully detach from them.” That has been one of my major affirmations for a while now. It allowed me to remain objective while facing random acts of symbolic violence from those I believed to be trust worthy. It’s an affirmation that helps one move past […]
Rant on Self Love: The Love Diary
It started with banana bread craving this noon! I don’t always crave food but the past weeks my cravings have been abysmal. And with self affirmations and realisation – “buckle up buttercup, you know that you’re very special, and it’s time for self love! For the most important person in your life is you. So, […]
Insincerity
I believe actions speak louder, perhaps the reason why I smile and nod when I see words pouring out some mouths whose actions showed otherwise. Perhaps a reason why I have allowed me to become a hypocrite and play along cause I know their insincerity has no parallel.
Mockingbird: The Love Diary
“First of all,” he said, “if you can learn a simple trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view […] until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” (To Kill A Mocking […]
Psycho Ex: The Love Diary
Psycho ex GF/BF? Who broke up with you? Block them, ignore them. When they have a problem and text you, call you cause they are incapable of dealing with their own shit – whether or not you make them your own problem is up to you. And this was the most precious advice I received […]
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I see my dog turning old, lose skin under her neck, I see her sleeping more and more, nodding off as she pretends to stay awake. I sit there talking to someone, a person who promises the world to me. I take my book and open a page – last poems I published about an […]
ANTHROPOLOGY OF LOVE 