“Are you materialistic? As an adult you can start making money. Are you civic-minded? You can vote. Do you want to drown the memories of your terrible childhood? You can drink. Do you want to make money, but in a faster, slightly more dishonest way? You can gamble, or buy a gun. You can also […]
Tag: gender
#Kashmiri Apples
Hard rural boys, dark skinned in their six hundred rupees pants – bought on the roadside, wanted to get them beautiful Kashmiri girls when BJP moved forces into the state; “white babes, with cheeks like apples – darlings me marry yous, wanna be my friendship?” So I told them, perhaps women from their family would […]
#Demons
We all have demons, they are our live entities. To work with your demons rather than shunning them – you are owning up to all your flaws and personality, a gratitude towards yourself.
Politics of my #Legs
They told me to cross my legs like a lady – apparently I had them spread like a man!
#Neutral #Natural
They talk of unwritten magic of girl child born. Goldmines and privilege waiting to be snatched from under their overgrown moustache. Talk of breaking glass ceilings, yet, made available for the similar – those who look, talk, walk, eat like us. Privilege is gender neutral. Makes one wonder, what truly is the difference between men […]
Day 157: #Guns and Women
While mentoring one of my students at Masterstudio (HGK, Basel) for her Master Thesis titled: “What attitude do Swiss and American students have towards guns? A study to visualise thoughts and attitudes regarding on-going debates about gun-control.” – I remember passing a snide comment about how guns have more rights than a woman in America. […]
Day 146: #MaternalWall or Maternity Bias
Bias against mothers stems not only from assumptions about what mothers are like, but also from assumptions about how mothers should behave… leading to people deciding as “well wishers” if mothers are capable of handling a child and a responsibility. This is particularly problematic as many would indulge into this sort of gender bias without […]
Day 138: #MothersDay
Exactly on this day a year ago my ex-J literally sat on his high-chair imposing his choice of not to pursue fatherhood – by telling me that it is either his way or highway if I want to be a mother. Yes. When we came together we had this conversation and I made it clear […]
Day 117: Sisyphean task
I have been travelling and living alone, away from my parents since I came of age. There were many Bengali men and women before I, they did the same, one of them being Gayatri Chakraborty-Spivak. I prefer thinking of us as the free spirited lot – in a never ending quest for knowledge and education. […]
Ah #BBC: Why you do this?
Day 101 The inaccuracy riding on black or white notions of facts with zero tolerance towards grey area – is exactly what makes for irritable sensational news. I read this article about Bridgerton and had to frown. Yes the show is questionable in its regards – particularly featuring a Black Lord Hastings (wasn’t the real […]
ANTHROPOLOGY OF LOVE 