I came across a post that asks the same question that I – a feminist – asked for a while. Why aren’t marriages lasting like our grandparents generation – what changed? A very smart person from America replied: This is answered weekly and no one is listening. You might also ask, “Why didn’t women have […]
Hard rural boys, dark skinned in their six hundred rupees pants – bought on the roadside, wanted to get them beautiful Kashmiri girls when BJP moved forces into the state; “white babes, with cheeks like apples – darlings me marry yous, wanna be my friendship?” So I told them, perhaps women from their family would […]
“When I look into this world,there are hardly any words not already spoken,there are hardly any thoughts not already written.Yet there are ears that need reachingand eyes that need showing.”
They talk of unwritten magic of girl child born. Goldmines and privilege waiting to be snatched from under their overgrown moustache. Talk of breaking glass ceilings, yet, made available for the similar – those who look, talk, walk, eat like us. Privilege is gender neutral. Makes one wonder, what truly is the difference between men […]
I first met a dragon at eight. They say consciousness develops then. Aware and responsive, perceptive; I’ll never forget! I met my great-grandmother. She called me ‘zhorstkyy’. Hardface. Little old lady who lived to be hundred and two, drank vodka every night and cooked for all – every day! She told my mother this: the […]
Mommy Diaries: Bialetti. Breastfeed.
I am half mind about changing from Nespresso to Bialetti again. Nespresso doesn’t satisfy me anymore. It’s good coffee but not for someone who enjoys the ritual of making coffee. And I need my caffeine after ten months of extremely clean diet! Past month, since my child’s birth, has been a rollercoaster ride of new […]
Day 146: #MaternalWall or Maternity Bias
Bias against mothers stems not only from assumptions about what mothers are like, but also from assumptions about how mothers should behave… leading to people deciding as “well wishers” if mothers are capable of handling a child and a responsibility. This is particularly problematic as many would indulge into this sort of gender bias without […]
Day 138: #MothersDay
Exactly on this day a year ago my ex-J literally sat on his high-chair imposing his choice of not to pursue fatherhood – by telling me that it is either his way or highway if I want to be a mother. Yes. When we came together we had this conversation and I made it clear […]
Day 117: Sisyphean task
I have been travelling and living alone, away from my parents since I came of age. There were many Bengali men and women before I, they did the same, one of them being Gayatri Chakraborty-Spivak. I prefer thinking of us as the free spirited lot – in a never ending quest for knowledge and education. […]
Ah #BBC: Why you do this?
Day 101 The inaccuracy riding on black or white notions of facts with zero tolerance towards grey area – is exactly what makes for irritable sensational news. I read this article about Bridgerton and had to frown. Yes the show is questionable in its regards – particularly featuring a Black Lord Hastings (wasn’t the real […]