Here’s a wisdom my grandmother shared: silence is louder than words. When your happiness is not tolerated, your kindness taken for granted, your voice not appreciated – withdraw. Value your own sanity and stop trying, where your tries are seen as effortless nuisance – withdraw; as peace is not made with words. Thus sit back, […]


Often hosts flutter aroundme in a compassionateway – eying,placing me securelyin a closed cabinetof fully inadequate.Then the statement –“I have been to yourcountry, must be nice living here?”All I reply is this:“Yes, isn’t it lovely living herein my country?”Securely aware of the realquestion: “How does itfeel to be brown?”


Keep hearing mention of an idiom: throw someone under the bus. It means to criticise, blame or punish someone in a vulnerable position; just so to avoid blame or to gain an advantage. Funny how it turns out that those who repeatedly use this term as a caution-tale… tactic, paranoia, – are often doing so […]

Mommy Diaries: Bialetti. Breastfeed.

I am half mind about changing from Nespresso to Bialetti again. Nespresso doesn’t satisfy me anymore. It’s good coffee but not for someone who enjoys the ritual of making coffee. And I need my caffeine after ten months of extremely clean diet! Past month, since my child’s birth, has been a rollercoaster ride of new […]

Mommy Diaries: Video Games

I love playing video games. It started when my childhood friend HM introduced me to Contra. A run ‘n’ gun shooter video game that we played on a small white Samurai (Nintendo Entertainment System). Super Mario was my other favourite, alongside Legend of Zelda and Street Fighter. The hours I’ve spent infront of TV, after […]

Day 149: Know your enemy – #DogWhistling #Narcissists

“Dog whistling is a gaslighting abuse technique where an abuser can cause suffering to another without others being aware of what is occurring. When the abused tries to speak up against it – it is dismissed by others as they are not being hurt by the action.” One of the major dog-whistle tactics that some […]

Day 146: #MaternalWall or Maternity Bias

Bias against mothers stems not only from assumptions about what mothers are like, but also from assumptions about how mothers should behave… leading to people deciding as “well wishers” if mothers are capable of handling a child and a responsibility. This is particularly problematic as many would indulge into this sort of gender bias without […]

Leadership: The Love Diary

Here’s a thought (for the week) that I strongly go by. I believe one should be a reflection of what they’d like to receive. I prize love, honesty and loyalty above all else – and hence I give to others what I want to receive. If you want to be taken seriously, learn to take […]

Box full of bags: The Love Diary

“I forgive those who hurt me in the past and peacefully detach from them.” That has been one of my major affirmations for a while now. It allowed me to remain objective while facing random acts of symbolic violence from those I believed to be trust worthy. It’s an affirmation that helps one move past […]