Horns and Cows

Even in the so-called romantic cultures that celebrate passionate entanglements in its literature, films, and mythology — acting “out of love” is not always an equal experience. After the past two (almost) academic posts, today (while lying in my bed, sick with flu) I have realised that it’s time to unpack the condensed ideas that I tried putting through in my previous posts. I don’t want to get into the spiral of academic language (again)… So, let me try to just go with the flow and explain what I mean with the help of popular Hindu magniloquence of “love”. And a bit of random bursting out into songs where “I would do anything for love… I’d run right into hell and back…. I would do anything for love…”!!

MY love keeps YOU (safely) preoccupied

MY love keeps YOU (safely) preoccupied is an attempt to explore some of the gendered aspects of distinction and domination in families from the classes with little to no cultural capital (Bourdieuan mainly), and if the idea of ‘love’ and its ritualistic emphasis on performance coax the agenda of domination of the weaker gender through the discourse of ‘love’…? And if this can be understood by looking at Marxist conflict theory… Then what is love? (Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more!)

The problematic discourse of a “bitch” and how “love” allows her to be tamed (Part 2)

Communication can breakdown at any point, be it in a casual date, a serious relationship, or even between friends; but it doesn’t have to signal the end of what was a happy love-story. However, the rhetoric to turn from “my bitch” to “that bitch” literally depends on a flip of emotional pancake. In Bollywood, “my bitch” or even the lovable “wife bitch” is the pushover character who does everything for her man/male love-interests without them ever having to demand it. While “that bitch” or the “bitch wife” is that often powerful or independent woman who demands others to get things done and wont stand for any excuses….

The problematic discourse of a “bitch” and how “love” allows her to be tamed (Part 1)

Here I will mildly highlight (the very complex idea of) gender dichotomy (through my cis-gendered heterosexual position), established by the word “bitch” and how visual linguistics of mainstream media keep this structured phenomenon of “the bitch” within the rituals of break-ups, friend zones, and “love”.
(Unedited First-Script)