Mommy Diaries: Divorce, Possibilities, and Lessons

I came across a post that asks the same question that I – a feminist – asked for a while. Why aren’t marriages lasting like our grandparents generation – what changed? A very smart person from America replied: This is answered weekly and no one is listening. You might also ask, “Why didn’t women have […]

#Kashmiri Apples

Hard rural boys, dark skinned in their six hundred rupees pants – bought on the roadside, wanted to get them beautiful Kashmiri girls when BJP moved forces into the state; “white babes, with cheeks like apples – darlings me marry yous, wanna be my friendship?” So I told them, perhaps women from their family would […]


Often hosts flutter aroundme in a compassionateway – eying,placing me securelyin a closed cabinetof fully inadequate.Then the statement –“I have been to yourcountry, must be nice living here?”All I reply is this:“Yes, isn’t it lovely living herein my country?”Securely aware of the realquestion: “How does itfeel to be brown?”

Day 157: #Guns and Women

While mentoring one of my students at Masterstudio (HGK, Basel) for her Master Thesis titled: “What attitude do Swiss and American students have towards guns? A study to visualise thoughts and attitudes regarding on-going debates about gun-control.” – I remember passing a snide comment about how guns have more rights than a woman in America. […]

Day 146: #MaternalWall or Maternity Bias

Bias against mothers stems not only from assumptions about what mothers are like, but also from assumptions about how mothers should behave… leading to people deciding as “well wishers” if mothers are capable of handling a child and a responsibility. This is particularly problematic as many would indulge into this sort of gender bias without […]

Ah #BBC: Why you do this?

Day 101 The inaccuracy riding on black or white notions of facts with zero tolerance towards grey area – is exactly what makes for irritable sensational news. I read this article about Bridgerton and had to frown. Yes the show is questionable in its regards – particularly featuring a Black Lord Hastings (wasn’t the real […]

Box full of bags: The Love Diary

“I forgive those who hurt me in the past and peacefully detach from them.” That has been one of my major affirmations for a while now. It allowed me to remain objective while facing random acts of symbolic violence from those I believed to be trust worthy. It’s an affirmation that helps one move past […]

Complaints: The Love Diary

So I had an official complaint from my boyfriend about my blog. “It’s been 4 days, where’s the new stuff? You’re not writing regularly!” I think at that moment my heart melted and I wanted to run down to Fribourg and hug him! If only all the complaints about my blog were in that direction […]

Ethnofiction: The Love Diary

Most people try to understand my style of writing. What is this blog truly about? What are those poems truly saying? Those books I wrote – what is it even? How can it be described as a genre? Mostly trying to figure out if my kind of “thick descriptions and conversational narratives” are to be […]

If it was meant to be

Sometimes I wonder why so much energy is spent to cause misery after you decide to dump someone? Sometimes I wonder why after choosing to break one’s heart there’s still unresolved issues day after day, night after night? You pretend to be “in such a good place” and yet took up to social media to […]