Mommy Diaries: You2.0

There’s one thing I learned during my divorce is that the person your husband or boyfriend leaves you for is usually not the person they cheated on you with. Atleast in my case I have a reason to believe that my ex (while still with me) remained friends with his current wife while he floundered with women who don’t mind sleeping with taken men (as they get a kick out of it… the viral TikTok video says a lot about sexual preferences of some people).

It’s had to digest always (as it was hard for me) that the guy looks for a better version of you. You2.0 if you may: and the You2.0 might have one of these following qualities or many, point is – s/he’s not you!

1. Younger

2. Attractive

3. Smart

4. Considerate

5. Excellent in bed

6. Wants kids (or doesn’t want kids – depends on the wo/man leaving you for You2.0)

7. Well versed/educated

8. Communicates

9. Easy going with the family

10. Same taste but different take

But one thing is for sure, if he cheated on you with someone – he will be smart enough not to start a relationship with that same someone.

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Why am I writing about this today?

“According to research, 1 in every 10 men who are fathers-to-be cheat on their significant others. Unfortunately, the chances of it happening increase as the fetus grows in the woman’s stomach.”

It came to my attention that some women are ok with letting their husband/boyfriend cheat and remain with them – cause they have a kid with them. During pregnancy a woman’s body goes through myriad of changes and to hear your partner tell you “I wouldn’t cheat on you if you weren’t this repulsive” can make you feel:

1. Angry

2. Faulty

3. Hurt

I would say the correct reaction would be anger and hurt. At that moment you know he will cheat on you no matter what – cause believe me when I say, if the person truly loves you, you the woman giving birth to his child, he will not cheat on you with the pretext that your body went through change. Pregnancy is not a licence for your partner to cheat. A cheating partner was never serious about you, a cheater never truly loves you.

The urge to cheat often (though not always) comes from a selfish, narcissistic place. You cannot change that in a man or woman who doesn’t value you enough to put you before himself or herself.

A cheating boyfriend (girlfriend) or husband (wife) doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you. No. It just means you two are not compatible. Often we want that what we can’t have – and we cling on to it. Perhaps letting go and starting new would bring you to your destination? I know it did for me. As I finally have someone who is:

1. Younger

2. Attractive

3. Smart

4. Considerate

5. Excellent in bed

6. Wants kids

7. Well versed/educated

8. Communicates

9. Easy going with the family

10. Same taste but different take

And I didn’t even have to cheat on my ex for it! So there you go. Let go. Take the garbage out. Fight for what is worth fighting. Also, you should not be suspicious of your significant other unless they exhibit signs of cheating. In the event that they do cheat, just remember – as I mentioned earlier – that it isn’t your fault to begin with. They just want a You2.0! Take it as a compliment (or a lesson) and move on.

So yes… if you see you can’t be the right person for someone under any circumstance – let them go.

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